Sometimes in life we are faced with a decision that only we have the power to make. Maybe it affects others, but the turning point actually lies solely in our hands. Often these decisions aren't simple or clear. After all the weighing we do, we really just have to jump in the direction we think is best.
Sometimes these decisions are so hard, we want to hand them off. We ask for endless amounts of validation or play the victim card to get it off our shoulders. But the only real path forward is to own our power, our life, and pick the direction we want to walk.
While we might want someone else to make the decision, the companionship we actually need is someone to be with us. We need to not be alone. While we have unique individual autonomy and responsibility, humans don't function well in isolation. We aren't islands. We are woven into deep, complex communities, whether we acknowledge it or not. People need us and we need them.
While it may be on us to make the call, it's also on us to consider how we affect others and how they affect us. One of the best ways to remember this is to be with one another. This is tricky since it sounds similar to owning each other's decisions.
But I don't need you to make the decision for me. In fact, if you do, I might resent you. What I need is for you to be with me. Be with me and help bear the weight of this decision. Be my friend. Love me as I make my decision. Sit with me as I am sitting with myself. Hold your words in your mouth and show me with your presence that none of my potential failures will take you away from me.
